I Was Disappointed by Bert Hellinger and His Obvious Karmic Burdens
Within ten minutes I set up a constellation for the Soul of a certain acquaintance with whom I still have unresolved issues. I acknowledged her current family situation. After a moment she appeared before me together with the Souls of her children. She asked for prayer, she knew what she wanted and knew how to obtain it. It was an excellent therapy based on action without action — effortless, satisfying for all sides, a shift in the relationship with another being. For me it was enlightening, all the more so because I was working with the Soul, not the personality.
I liked the method and its effects, but Bert Hellinger himself disappointed me. Once again I discovered that seeking solutions outside of God is a dead end. In a similar way I am astonished by the ultimate helplessness of his otherwise brilliant therapy, just as I am by the splendid Polish discovery of human Soul-karma and past experiences through Regressing. In every book, Mr. Leszek Żądło gives dozens of beautiful prayers, meditations, and affirmations that help reveal and extract negative behavioral patterns and allow us to release them. Both methods are used by certified therapists, but very few are willing or able to go all the way, following the thread of the knowledge that appears.
Mr. Hellinger fiercely defends himself against becoming aware of his own and others’ karma, dismissing such exploration as meaningless. Meanwhile, a typical Regressing client receives just a few affirmational sentences concerning their past as an initial solution — something to follow as they “work on the Soul’s karma”. But clients coming straight “from the street” cannot, without long preparation, deal with the karmic troubles of the Soul. They lack practice and knowledge of the Soul and of ways to handle these problems. Very few women, for example, are ready to accept the information that a hundred years ago they were prostitutes. A sober-thinking therapist should direct attention to the fact that this is the past of the Soul, not of the woman. Living with the burden of guilt for one’s “own” karmic past is difficult when there is no solution. Hellinger acts similarly — aware of his limitations, yet he recommends that his clients share those same limitations.
Independent work with prayers, meditations, cleansing one’s own intentions is not the goal of clients in family constellations, and only in rare cases do Regressers use it.
A person who, through these techniques, has uncovered sometimes brutal truths about themselves or the karma of their Soul suffers with it for many years. The Soul also remains in a state of helpless awareness, sometimes not even remembering God.
For example: an acquaintance with the karma of a black magician, a satanist, with a past as an SS-man. Around her Soul there is a frozen image of a mound of murdered people from Auschwitz. Today there is no man who would want to build a happy marriage with her or have sex. For many years the girl has been asking on the forum for a set of affirmations about marriage, about the presence of a man in her life. She works with several ineffective texts. Without a comprehensive connection of herself (the personality) with the Soul and its entanglements, therapies allow only the discovery of the pattern — and that is usually the end of all work.
From various textual fragments in books, one can see that God and His love sometimes appear as dead, meaningless concepts.
Hellinger, like an orthodox Buddhist, does not speak of God, avoids God and references to Him. As a model for life and action, a model of life-wisdom, he discourages clients with his own attitude toward God and toward Love itself.
From the book “The Order of Love”, p. 66:
Hellinger:
“Many problems arise because a person thinks that with reflection, effort, or love — as demanded in the Sermon on the Mount — he could overcome the order. But the order is given and cannot be replaced by love. That is an illusion. One must return to order, to truth. Only there can we find a solution.”
Helmut:
“You casually threw out some brutal statements — that love doesn’t help, that love resolves nothing, that you can’t solve such a problem using love. Indeed, I tried in various ways and it didn’t work. But this is a terrible insight.”
Hellinger:
“Love is part of order. Order precedes love, and love can grow only within the framework of order. Order is given. If I reverse these relations and try to change order through love, I will fail. It is impossible. Love submits to order, and then it can grow. Like a seed that develops and grows if only it yields to the soil.”
Helmut:
“So I truly am insane.”
Hellinger:
“Yes, but now you have a chance to put things in order. Some people can make up a lot in a short time when they act. But confessing guilt and lamenting prevent action and weaken. They replace action.”
In his therapy, entrusting oneself to God and His care is not an option.
We have pure agnosticism, a lack of faith in God’s creative power, etc. The heart is filled with the fog of the white astral (white energies). Both methods very clearly reveal the patterns of burdens — they place them on the “plate”. But without handing them over to the Almighty Creator, there is little that can be achieved for the Soul and personality to escape entanglement.
Bert Hellinger was a monk for 25 years. He had time to develop a method, but he became discouraged with God, believing that prayers like Angelus, Hail Mary, and others he knew simply did not work in such cases. Therefore he recommends not involving God’s Love in the healing of the human Soul.
His views strongly resemble Buddhist ones, where God is not acknowledged at all, and the ultimate goal is total emptiness. In another sense he expresses karmic Hindu views, where the one supreme God (Brahma) does exist, but is occupied with His own matters and never interferes in the lives of mortals. God and His love are, in his view, “a blind alley for the fanatical”, whereas constellation therapy “is psychologically serious and lifted beyond illusions. It is not even worth looking toward the light.”
His Buddhist foundations are visible in another text. At first glance we have a monastic Jesuit program. Page 79 of the book — and a report concerning a deceased sister of a client:
Hellinger’s solution:
“My dear Aldehid, I will live a little longer, and then I too will die.”
A suggestion put forward persuasively, yet hopeless — giving no chance for love or forgiveness.
A true solution should be prayer:
“Dear sister, I allow you to go into the Light, to God.
Dear sister, I return your freedom, I return the freedom of your Soul.
I allow you — your Soul — to take a new incarnation.
I have forgiven myself that for so many years I held your Soul close to me.”
If I, Sławek, were to uncover a heavy pattern:
- I would build a prayer describing the entire entanglement — even several extensive ones on related topics.
- I would clean at least 20 intentions related to the issue.
- I would ask God for guidance.
- I would ask for forgiveness for myself and the Soul.
- I would ask for the cancellation of the pattern and its conditions.
- I would ask for the cancellation of the intentions that sustained it.
“If I reverse these relations and try to change order through love, I will fail. It is impossible.”
This is the white-astral illusion in which Mr. Bert Hellinger lives.
God’s Love always soothes and heals all patterns.
It once happened that God removed cancerous tissue from diseased skin — one only had to ask Him once. Do you see the differences in attitudes, expectations? They also appear as material consequences of all actions.
Sowa writes (02/11/2010, 14:33)
Sławek:
“A person who, through these techniques, has discovered the sometimes brutal truth about themselves or about the karma of the Soul, struggles with it for many years.”
What truth about themselves?
Regressing pulls out fragments from the Soul’s memory — memory belonging to the Soul, whose actions the current incarnation does not answer for and has no influence over.
Time, development, life move forward; there are no exceptions here.
This is how the evolution of the universe works.
Constantly moving backwards, digging up the past brings nothing beneficial except wasting the NOW — because whoever the Being has been, it exists in the NOW and is responsible for the NOW.
s_majda writes (02/11/2010, 17:57)
For me, and for many others, knowledge of past incarnations is essential for ordinary understanding. There are very few people with your extraordinary clairvoyance. You work differently, because every clairvoyant transmission, every insight, brings you knowledge of the past of a being — of the personality or of the Soul. Through your clairvoyant insights you learned that your Soul incarnated many times as this or that important figure. You should accept the fact that very few of us would be able to obtain information in such a straightforward way.
You are satisfied with your vast, open Third Eye. Others don’t have that yet, so Regressing or Hellinger’s therapy brings them the correct information.
If I were to deny others the right to such therapies — slandering them — I would be taking away their right to understand the causes of their own entanglements, illnesses, or even the prostitution of a beloved woman.
In the article I ask only one question: how exactly is this knowledge being delivered by those teachers?
Your posts look as if you were denying others the right to know themselves, to know their Soul — simply because this knowledge has already been given to you. So why, then, should others bother to learn any of this?
Knowing both methods — or at least reading all the books by Hellinger or Mr. Żądło — I consider essential for understanding many aspects of spirituality and working with one’s own Soul.
Piotr Tymianek writes (03/11/2010, 10:08)
Sowa,
It would be nice if you introduced yourself with your real name and surname… unless you have something to hide…
s_majda writes (21/12/2010, 20:34)
Grounding oneself in “here and now” is important so that a person doesn’t float with their head in the clouds. It’s even done as an exercise — grounding into the interior of the Earth through the chakra channel. An acquaintance who is a Reiki Master and bio-therapist gives harmful advice: to drink some alcohol for grounding.
I’m after my sixth book by BH and deeply impressed by the effectiveness of the entire therapy. I focus on the purpose of the therapy, not on the mistakes or Buddhist codes of its creator, which are worth stepping over once one sees what lies further and deeper. But sometimes incorrect spiritual advice appears — sometimes outright pseudo-spiritual. I found information stating that “people who get wings — leave, die.” As BH recommends, one should “add weights to their legs (to their hump).” And this advice comes from an incarnated angel!!! I understand he might have meant grounding in the here and now, but he advised the person to lose their wings.
For me — someone who literally prayed for the reconstruction of the wings of my own Soul — this is unhealthy thinking and terrible confusion, for which one must pay through life experiences.
A few steps forward with the therapy, and then sometimes BH’s astral Soul-program activates and erases the entire previous progress.
This is exactly how the spiritual downfall of various masters works:
give others hope, and once they trust — “prove” to them that they will never reach the goal.
Interestingly, the entry was immediately commented: “people who get wings leave — they die.”
“Sławek, ‘don’t get wings’ is missing here.”
But the first version is authentic.
Ela Gajewska writes (06/02/2011, 15:36)
My comment to Sowa. My whole life I was constantly kicked and mistreated, but I continuously sat in guilt from the past. I constantly repeated patterns until the punishment I had prepared for myself finally arrived. For about a year I’ve been fighting to free myself from this.
I don’t want to rebel anymore; I know exactly what I did and I’m quite shocked by what the Soul did. It wants to be rid of it.
So how is it — I feel I have heavy burdens, and I’m supposed to just leave them as they are, even though all my life I’ve wanted to get rid of them?
s_majda writes (08/02/2011, 21:30)
One technique for confusing others is introducing one’s own terminology for concepts everyone already knows.
If someone called a table a “grzęsile” and the sun a “rochan”, everyone would tap their forehead. In spirituality this is normal and even praised, when some “innovator” introduces informational chaos.
— “Damn, I don’t understand any of this, but I’ll shout Hallelujah — yes, he’s right, because he named it in his own way.”
It’s easier and safer to praise the thinker than to admit not understanding the concepts and the knowledge.
Bert Hellinger calls God “Spirit” in the book Love’s Own Truth. Thus he brings chaos and confusion by replacing a well-known word — God — with his own. “Spirit” is a clear term for the Soul of a deceased being, not for God. Again it is difficult to work through his remarkable knowledge presented in a chaotic way.
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