Attitude Toward Oneself – Intentions for Prayerful Reflection

Author: Konrad Jaszowski

Technical matters concerning the idea and construction of sentences when working with intentions.
Article “800 Intentions for Cleansing” Link
“Building Extensive Intentions and Prayers. A Skype Conversation About the Technique” Link
“One-Sentence Structure for Intentions.” Link

The word (not-) added while working with intentions means that it is worthwhile to mention the opposite as well, or even independently find and speak aloud any synonyms that come to mind together with their opposites.

For example — being poor, ill — it is good to also say the opposite:

being poor, ill, not being poor, ill

This allows a given pattern to be activated as broadly as possible in its various aspects, including its opposite. It is also worth knowing that Souls often think and claim that they do not possess such opposite patterns, for example that they are not idol worshippers in a given case.

Another example:

A woman’s Soul denies ever having been a bad mother. Therefore adding the phrase not being a bad mother may allow her to understand the state she is in.

Being a bad mother, not being a bad mother

“Of course not, never in my life! These are not my patterns. What I do is my private matter.”
[A Soul often says or thinks this about itself.]

1. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that giving oneself pleasure, satisfying one’s own needs, and taking care of one’s personal interests is one of the fundamental tendencies directing human life, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
2. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that treating oneself well is generally not the subject of educational, customary, or moral recommendations; that people are generally encouraged and motivated to act for the good of others and to develop prosocial and altruistic attitudes, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
3. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that pursuing personal interests and concentrating on satisfying one’s own needs is called egoism and is evaluated negatively; that at the foundation of such an approach lies the assumption that human nature is inherently selfish and that people naturally desire to care only for themselves, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
4. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that educational and socializing efforts are concentrated on shaping attitudes that promote acting for the good of others; that acting for the good of others and acting for one’s own good are often presented as competing objectives, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
5. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that for centuries, from early childhood, children in Christian families were taught to beware of selfishness and to act, even sacrifice themselves, for the good of their neighbors; that the belief is still widely promoted that loving oneself is a forbidden form of selfishness negatively described as “self-love,” and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
6. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that the commandment “love your neighbor as yourself” is a call to develop a positive attitude toward oneself, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
7. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that each of our lives unfolds within two different though interconnected kinds of relationships; that one consists of relationships and contacts with the external world and the other of contacts and relationships with oneself, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
8. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that typical forms of contact with other people determining the content and style of interpersonal relations include getting to know and understand, acting and influencing, evaluating and taking a stance, mutual communication, cooperation, work, and play, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
9. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that it may be useful to adopt a similar set of categories when analyzing one’s relationship with oneself, indicating the basic forms of contact with oneself, and then attempt to answer the question: “What does it mean to treat oneself well?”, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
10. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that what most often defines criteria for “good” treatment of others are attitudes such as understanding, helping, appreciating and accepting, kindness and loyalty, and cooperation, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
11. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that friendship holds the highest rank among positive attitudes toward another person; that if the content of the attitude “being good to oneself” were defined by analogy to interpersonal friendship, it would be desirable to examine what it means to “be a friend to oneself,” and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
12. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that following this path we may identify such positive attitudes and forms of contact with oneself as understanding and accepting oneself, supporting and liking oneself, helping oneself, treating oneself with respect, and being important to oneself, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
13. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that experiencing such a friendly relationship with oneself appears to be the foundation of mental health and the capacity for life satisfaction; that very many people do not experience this kind of relationship with themselves, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
14. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that a common denominator of the problems of the vast majority of people is the presence of a negative attitude toward themselves and a deficit in the ability to be friendly toward themselves, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
15. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that many people struggle with themselves and hinder themselves, and their inner life is filled with fear, sadness, and anger; therefore, the fundamental goal of psychotherapy should be increasing the ability to become a friend to oneself, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
16. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that most problems leading people to seek help from psychotherapists are related to a deficit in the ability to help oneself in a friendly manner and to a tendency to attack and depreciate oneself, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
17. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that friendship with oneself means understanding oneself; that understanding oneself consists of knowing and comprehending one’s motives, goals, needs, aspirations, emotions, and behavior, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
18. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that understanding oneself is connected with accepting oneself; that acceptance means recognizing and acknowledging one’s actual characteristics, abilities, limitations, feelings, and experiences without denying or distorting them, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
19. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that accepting oneself does not mean passive approval of everything one does, but rather a realistic recognition of one’s strengths and weaknesses, possibilities and limitations, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
20. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that people who do not accept themselves often devote great amounts of energy to concealing aspects of themselves they consider unacceptable, undesirable, shameful, or unworthy, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
21. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that friendship with oneself also means supporting oneself, taking care of one’s own well-being, helping oneself in difficult situations, and acting in ways that serve one’s growth and development, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
22. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that helping oneself includes the ability to comfort oneself, encourage oneself, seek constructive solutions to one’s difficulties, and provide oneself with emotional support rather than criticism and condemnation, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
23. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that many people are much more understanding, forgiving, and supportive toward others than they are toward themselves, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
24. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that self-respect means treating oneself as a valuable person deserving of care, dignity, attention, and consideration, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
25. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that self-respect is expressed through respecting one’s own needs, boundaries, values, feelings, and convictions, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
26. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that being important to oneself means recognizing that one’s own life, experiences, feelings, and aspirations matter and deserve attention, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
27. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that many people habitually place the needs, expectations, and opinions of others above their own, while minimizing the significance of their own experiences, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
28. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that a healthy attitude toward oneself includes the ability to recognize and satisfy one’s own needs without guilt, shame, or fear of rejection, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
29. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that many difficulties in relationships arise from a lack of a positive relationship with oneself and from seeking in others what one is unable to give oneself, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
30. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that the ability to establish close, satisfying, and mature relationships with others is closely connected with the ability to maintain a positive relationship with oneself, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
31. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that people who are friends to themselves generally cope better with stress, difficulties, failures, and crises because they are able to provide themselves with support and understanding, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
32. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that friendship with oneself is not a state achieved once and for all, but a process that requires attention, practice, patience, and conscious effort throughout life, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof; Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that the relationship of a person who depreciates themselves with a loving partner may become a chain of torment based on the expectation of inevitable abandonment because “I am the kind of person who cannot be loved” or “I do not deserve love”; that this sometimes leads to provoking situations that confirm such a pattern, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
33. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that one area of human functioning in which one’s attitude toward oneself is expressed consists of the criteria and preferences shaping choices and decisions concerning one’s own behavior; that depreciating oneself is associated with a tendency either to give up doing something good for oneself or, conversely, to silence negative feelings toward oneself through exaggerated protection of one’s own interests and pleasures, sometimes at the expense of the well-being of others, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
34. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that supporting and developing a friendly attitude toward oneself often means, above all, overcoming and transforming negative attitudes; that such negative attitudes include hostility toward oneself, self-depreciation, self-rejection or distancing oneself from oneself, self-sabotage, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
35. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that the direction of positive change may be described, among other things, as liking oneself—for example, finding pleasure in being with oneself and treating oneself kindly, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
36. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that the direction of positive change may be described, among other things, as valuing and appreciating oneself—recognizing oneself as someone valuable and important to oneself, worthy of one’s own respect, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
37. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that the direction of positive change may be described, among other things, as self-acceptance and self-awareness—recognizing one’s needs, feelings, thoughts, and experiences and remaining in contact with them without defensive distortions or negative rejection, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
38. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that the direction of positive change may be described, among other things, as helping and supporting oneself—encouraging oneself and sustaining hope in difficult circumstances, rewarding oneself for achievements, and comforting oneself in moments of failure, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
39. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that when emphasizing the need for personal transformation, one must address the possible accusation that such an approach promotes “narcissism and selfishness”; that a friendly attitude toward oneself, understood in this way, does not create obstacles to acting for the good of others, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
40. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that self-acceptance and self-respect may provide a more durable foundation for altruistic attitudes than self-denial and serving others as a means of compensating for one’s own insecurities, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
41. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that readiness to help and serve other people is also influenced by factors such as the ability to empathically recognize their needs and the internalization of prosocial and altruistic values, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
42. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that “being good to oneself” does not imply concentrating solely on satisfying one’s own needs and providing oneself with pleasure, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
43. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that the fundamental source of a positive attitude toward oneself is the internalization of relationships with people who were supportive and positively disposed toward us; that this fosters readiness to adopt similar attitudes toward others, reflecting what one experienced from important people in one’s life, while recognizing that living well requires more than merely “being good to oneself,” and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
44. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that freeing oneself from the “tyranny” of negative patterns of thinking and fantasizing about oneself requires recognizing the automatisms of one’s own negative self-thinking and learning to monitor their manifestations, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
45. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that within the process of psychotherapy, imaginative dramatizations of interactions with significant people whose influence was recorded negatively may prove helpful; that this can create opportunities for new experiences that correct old patterns and facilitate liberation from their influence, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
46. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that people who discover that the depreciating attacks of a parent during childhood were harmful may mobilize their energy, from the position of an adult, to oppose their influence and free themselves from painful indoctrination through negative judgments about themselves; that feelings of guilt or defectiveness instilled in childhood may sometimes be transformed into a sense of having been wronged and subsequently released through forgiveness and the abandonment of expectations for love and acceptance from one’s parents, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
47. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that working through the negative traces of early relationships opens the possibility for change within the quiet internal dialogues between two parts of the self, where previously the Inner Critic painfully dominated the overwhelmed and weakened remaining part; that softening and taming the harsh or cruel attacks of the critical part leads to a more balanced and friendly inner dialogue, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
48. Our own and, through us, caused in others, allowing the reconstruction of a positive attitude toward oneself and opening the possibility of benefiting from friendly self-criticism and inner support instead of self-oppression, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
49. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that a developing process of transformation creates the opportunity to seek new ways of improving one’s relationship with oneself; that one such way consists in developing the ability to experience doing something good for others as something good for oneself, while another path leads to forming meaningful and positive relationships with other people that become internalized and contribute to the growth of a positive attitude toward oneself, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
50. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that within the expression “self-worth” there is also hidden the word “feeling”; that in this context it refers to my feeling toward myself; that the primary issue is therefore not my attitude toward myself or my opinion about myself, but what I feel in relation to myself—whether I have a positive, warm, love-based attitude toward myself; whether I love myself; whether I can wholeheartedly say “yes” to myself, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
51. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that just as in the case of love for another person, healthy and positive self-worth is fundamentally about the love I feel toward myself; that until I am able to love and fully accept myself, I am unable truly to love another person; that therefore working on my relationship with myself is more important than working on my relationships with others, or at least that these two processes go hand in hand; that I must first care for my bond with myself instead of prematurely worrying about others or expecting them to do for me what only I can do for myself, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
52. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that as long as my relationship with myself lacks kindness, I am unable to truly meet others halfway; that I long for another person who will give me what I myself do not possess or do not feel toward myself; that I long for love, acceptance, and for someone I can rely on; that the disappointment of not receiving and experiencing what I desire may lead to despair; and that being alone may then be perceived as a death sentence to which I have been irreversibly condemned, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
53. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that low self-worth may very likely be a cause of being alone and experiencing loneliness because we consider ourselves of little value, suspect those around us of being insincere toward us, and, in order to protect and defend ourselves, build walls of distrust; that fear enters the heart, causing the space around us to feel increasingly constricted and making us feel alienated from the external world and even from ourselves; that we do not experience a genuine bond with the person we truly are, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
54. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that if I have a positive attitude toward myself, I am sometimes able even to enjoy being alone because I know I am not condemned to it; that I can change this state of affairs; that I have time for myself and enjoy my own company; that I do not feel excluded or cut off from other people and remain aware that there are people close to me, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof;
55. Our own and, through us, caused in others, knowledge, understanding, promotion, experience, awareness, and more, that I am able to take the initiative in establishing new relationships; that I am able to deepen and nurture them; and that as a result, being alone becomes for me a source of joy; that I feel my independence and remain aware of the possibilities that allow me to shape my life and my relationships with others, and not only that, together with our own and others’ experience of all consequences thereof.

Opublikowano: 31/05/2026
Autor: Sławomir Majda
Kateogrie: Psychology – being yourself

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